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Will Yan, your turn, please. This topic is about breakdowns. It is a word first used to describe dams. [Should adults hide their mental breakdowns? The Affirmative: Yes] It is referring to the dam being crushed by the flood. This is the original meaning of the word. Just as the flood would not
Warn the dam that it is coming, the flood of our emotions does not need to ask for our permissions before it causes a mental breakdown. This is why I think that Liu Yang was completely out of topic. He argued that we do not allow others to have breakdowns. That’s not what we mean.
This topic is not about whether adults should [Should adults hide their mental breakdowns? The Affirmative: Yes] stop or prevent themselves from having a breakdown. No. It is talking about how we should deal with our breakdowns. What should adults do when they are at the moment of having a breakdown?
This is what we should be discussing. Hiding it or not hiding it. They represent two ways of asking for help. We agree that people having a breakdown can be really fragile. They really need some help. However, it is not proper for them to cry in the office and show everyone
On the street that they are having a breakdown, just as you’ve mentioned. We did that a lot when we were kids, but adults should not do that. Here is my recommendation. Find someone that understands you. A friend who might be far away from you and understands you. Tell them about your breakdowns.
Let them offer you some comfort. [Should adults hide their mental breakdowns? The Affirmative: Yes] Isn’t this more effective? Do you know what that means for an adult? It means that when you are having a breakdown, when you’ve lost control of your emotions, you manage to get hold of something in the flood.
That is your senses. You are still aware that you’ve got a friend waiting for you. You are still aware that what you need is some caring and love. This is my first point. [Should adults hide their mental breakdowns? The Affirmative: Yes] A difference between kids and adults is that adults have responsibilities.
They will not be gone even if you are having a breakdown. What was my last job? I was a student majoring in civil aviation. You can call me a pilot. Have you got another name then? People call us pilots. When I was watching The Pilot, I was really moved. You know how dangerous
The situation was [Should adults hide their mental breakdowns? The Affirmative: Yes] on that 8633 flight. The windshield was broken. Half of the body of the co-pilot was outside of the cabin. It was freezing, minus 45 degrees. The alarms were all going on. Behind them were 119 panic-stricken passengers.
Wouldn’t the pilot have a breakdown? Of course he would. But he sounded so calm in the control tower, as if he was talking about something else. He said, “The windshield is broken.” In the interview, he said that he thought that was the end. That is what he thought at the moment.
But what did he choose to do instead? He needs to be responsible for that uniform he wears. At that moment, he chose to hide his breakdown and his emotions under that uniform. He needs to be responsible for those badges on his shoulders. This is what an adult should do. Well said.
I know that what I’ve said must have put a lot of pressure on you. You are already having a breakdown. Do you still need to consider all that? That is so hard. I think that adults should not only hide their breakdowns, but also cherish them. When you are having a breakdown,
You manage the get hold of something for yourself in that flood of emotions. It might be your senses. Your responsibilities. They will stay with you and become a part of you. They will help you deal with the next breakdown and help you become someone stronger. I’ve read a great description
Of what an adult should be. It’s in The Art of War by Sun Tzu. It says, “Those who are ambitious but look calm [Those who are ambitious but look calm can become generals] can be generals.” This is what an adult should be. I hope that we can all get hold of something precious
In the flood of emotions for ourselves. They may help us deal with breakdowns and stay away from breakdowns. Let’s all bid farewell to breakdowns. Thank you. Well said. That was great. Very well.