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[My boss is proposing a toast to me. Should I drink to it even if I don’t want to?] The debaters are Wind and Sonya. [Should I drink to it even if I don’t want to? The affirmative: Wind vs. The negative: Sonya.] Sonya! Sonya! Sonya! Her dress is really festive. The one wearing red and standing in the blue section is Sonya. And Wind, please introduce yourself. Hello, I am Wind. I sell wine. Is that all? Yes. Do you choose Sonya to get eliminated? No. Just want to see if I can beat her. [The fearless newcomer.] Sonya, have many people have said that to you in the past one year or two? Yes. This time he fought with another middle-aged man for me. He said he’s here to avenge married men. Here. [The day when they chose the topics.] Raise your hand if you want to fight Sonya. [Let me see.] Why? Those two. Sun Yu. And Wind, the tough guy. Look at her expression. Sonya, let me tell you this. You are the reason why they joined this show. Please give this chance to me. [The tough guy staring at you.] Please. Alright, go. Thank you. Look at him. A quick question. Don’t you even care what topic it is and what side you are on? Right. So, if your boss proposes a toast to you, you will drink to it even if you don’t want to? I will, even if I don’t want to. A tough guy can drink anything.] I think that’s great. He’s brave. Really courageous. Indeed a tough guy. It’s going to be great. A great battle. It’s a battle between a middle-aged man and a middle-aged woman. He’s the middle-aged man. Or is he? I am thirty years old. [Born after 1990.] He does look like one though. The newcomers are afraid of nothing. Since I am here, I have to see how good the best can be. After he chose this topic, I turned around and saw him doing this to me. It’s true. He was doing that to me. What does that mean? My lashes were poking my eyes. Alright. We should get started. Here. Let’s do the rock, paper, scissors and decide who goes first. Rock, paper, scissors. Paper. Sonya, your choice. I will go first. Come on. Sonya, three minutes, present your arguments. Go. I won’t drink to it. Because my boss [My boss is proposing a toast to me. Should I drink to it even if I don’t want to? The negative.] is Ma Dong. What does mean if he proposes a toast to me? It means he’s drunk. I have known him for four years. We barely talk to each other. The thing he’s said to me the most is hi. [Hello.] We are not that close. It’s really irrational if he proposes a toast to me. I won’t drink to it. I will not force myself. I have to remind him that our sponsors are all sitting around this table. JD.com. Master Kong. Zuoyebang. LY.com. They are all waiting for him to propose a toast to them. Is it proper that he ignores them and only proposes a toast to me? [Take a guess.] I am worthy of that toast. But as an excellent employee, I have to remind my boss when he makes mistakes. I have to remind you all. Our bosses are not young anymore. They are not very healthy either. You have to think about that. [It’s not easy being the boss.] Drinking is not that safe for them. They can’t drink much, so they need to make good use of every toast. When he wakes up the next day and asks me where the sponsors are, I can’t just tell him to take a guess. This is my first point. Our bosses are not in a good condition. We are actually no better. Right? You don’t have to force yourself. The second point. Look at the topic. [My boss is proposing a toast to me. Should I drink to it even if I don’t want to? The negative.] It’s just a toast. It’s not an order. Why do you have to force yourself to do that? Besides, you will get drunk easily if you are not in your best shape. That means more debate topics for this how. "Should I quit my job if I yell at my boss [Talking crazy after you get drunk.] after getting drunk?" [The affirmative: Wind; The negative: Sonya.] "Am I wrong that I let my spouse check my phone after getting drunk?’ "My spouse finds the love of his or her life after I get drunk. Should I give them my wishes?" [It scares me when I think about it.] You are the affirmative. Drinking takes a lot. My colleague Gaoming. Very fragile. Can’t drink much either. [Why drag me into this?] But he’s got this trick. He can sing songs and make others drink till they get drunk. He’s helped me a lot. This also tells us that your colleagues matter. Don’t underestimate those like Gaoming. They don’t have to be tough to help you at a dinner party. [The tough guy is ashamed.] Finally, I don’t think forcing yourself to drink is showing respect to your boss. On the contrary, it means your boss is doing a terrible job. You want to be appreciated and recognized by your boss. Haven’t you asked yourself if you’ve done enough to earn that? If you trust your boss, when he proposes a toast to you, you should not see it as a chance to butter him up. It’s just a glass of wine. If your boss doesn’t deserve your trust, it is still just a glass of wine. See your boss as one of you. Respect your boss, not ingratiate yourself with him. You can say no to whoever proposes a toast to me as long as you want to. Lowering yourself doesn’t show respect. Seeing others as one of you is showing respect. Let’s respect each other. Thank you. She’s got so many points. She threw out another after she finished one. It was really intensive. I didn’t have time to process everything. [The tough guy is confused.] Sonya, thank you. Let’s drink to it. You’ve mentioned that a glass of wine is not a change to butter your boss up. Right? Right. Did you think of that yourself? Did you think of that yourself? Right. Very well said. Because you dare not say no when your boss proposes a toast to you. It seems that you are respecting your boss, but actually it is not. You can’t talk about it now. Alright. Sonya, did you also come up with the part where you say your boss is not young anymore and drinking is not safe for them? Can’t you relate to that? It doesn’t sound right to me. Alright. Three minutes. Wind, your turn. Hello, I am Wind. I sell wine. When I got this topic, what came to my mind is, "what a chance". I have to drink with my boss when I get this chance. I have got three points. [My boss is proposing a toast to me. Should I drink to it even if I don’t want to? The affirmative.] First, let’s forget about drinking first. You have to say yes to this. [The tough guy making his point.] In Qingdao culture, you have to drink to whoever proposes a toast to you, let alone your boss. You have to force that person to drink to you as well. This is a competition about who can last till the end. You are a man. You need to prove it to everyone. You have got what it takes. You need to tell everyone who the boss is there. Tell them who’s the one making the call. [In a dinner party.] In the office, we are always obeying orders. You can’t say no to your boss. Your boss decides everything. We are told to do this and that. We don’t have a choice. At that dinner party, he finally gets drunk. He starts proposing toasts. What a chance. You have to drink to it and show him what you’ve got. Don’t worry if you will get drunk. That’s not a problem. Not a problem. You guys can work together. You can do this if all of you join the battle. You can take turns proposing toasts to your boss. As long as you can drink even a little bit, I don’t think your boss can last very long. Well said. That was good. This is my first point. You can’t flinch from it. Now the second point. [Respect.] Respect. Your boss will respect you [My boss is proposing a toast to me. Should I drink to it even if I don’t want to? The affirmative.] if you respect him or her. You say no when your boss proposes a toast. You turn the table when your boss is trying to get food. You boo when your boss sings. You get in the car when your boss is holding the door. Is that showing respect? Shouldn’t you treat your boss better? You should. Let’s show some respect. He’s showing you respect when proposing that toast. Shouldn’t we do the same? At least take a sip. Make him feel better. [The affirmative: Wind; The negative: Sonya.] Now the third point. People should respect each other. What I mean by that is that… Sorry, not that. my third point is the trust between people. Do you know why people propose toasts? Why would we do that? Why? [Asking the right question.] Because we are afraid of getting poisoned. [This is his opinion only.] In the past, people raised their glasses and the wine would be spilled into each other’s glasses. If the wine is poisoned, you will all die. [Live and die together.] What does it mean? It shows that you trust each other. Those who propose a toast to you don’t have any ill intention towards you. If you don’t drink to it, he’s left standing there. I am running out of time. A quick summary. In this society, no one can escape from drinking. We all have to get drunk. Alright. Time’s up. [The affirmative: Wind; The negative: Sonya.]