Clip: Chen Ming’s Speech Makes Many Audiences Cry | I Can I BB S7 EP06 | 奇葩说7 | iQIYI
The votes
always look so familiar.
90 votes for the other side.
But I can reverse it easily,
no problem.
There were two very
emotional speeches.
They made it look like
[The BB Planet is launching an ex-rating app.
The Affirmative: Yes]
there is only swearing
and anger on that app.
But in fact,
we just heard many stories
on this very stage,
including Dandan’s first love,
and a lot of stories about first kisses.
We just
finished hearing
Gaoming’s only relationship.
Is there any swearing?
Any?
Gaoming, if the app exists,
just type what you just said out
and post it on it.
Nah, you don’t even need to.
When you were standing here
facing a nationwide audience.
You gave us a textbook example
of writing a review on your ex.
Should we support this app?
What kind of attitude we should
treat it with?
Musk has a theory called
"First Principles".
[First principles demand us to explore the
world from the perspective of physics.]
In everything we do,
we should ask
"what is the fundamental truth of this?"
What is the fundamental truth of this app?
Commercially speaking,
its first principle lies in one fact.
Will people use it?
Will people use it?
Let’s think about it.
Everyone has a cellphone,
let’s say there’s one app like this
among dozens of apps on your cell.
And one night,
before you fall asleep.
You feel alone.
Would you open it
and search for your ex,
see how their other exes,
comment on them?
Or maybe look for your partner,
and check
what their exes say about them?
Do you wanna search yourself?
The last part of Gaoming’s speech,
is his best wish for his ex.
But do you not wanna know
how she thinks of you?
I don’t buy it.
Your ex
spent four or five years
to leave such a deep mark on you.
On a lonely night,
you would definitely check her reviews on you.
There’s a voice saying
"I just wanna see,
after five years.
How do you really
think of me?"
As long as you are willing to
take your phone out and click on the app,
in a lonely night like that.
Check a picture, search a name,
or read a comment.
If you do this, this app will live on.
It’s the first principle.
Because there are people who use it,
this app will survive.
It will survive.
Of course, this is just a commercial point of view.
But we can expand it further.
This ex-rating app,
its real first principle
is information efficiency.
This app
will prolong your life.
Twenty years ago,
you might need a decade or two
to learn about a city.
But in the era of big data,
with one or two apps,
you will know all the roads
even footpaths.
You will know which roads have traffic jams,
which restaurants rank the best,
and which ones have spicy food.
You mentioned that we need to
experience the beauty of life.
We do need to experience the beauty of food,
but it doesn’t stop you from
using food-rating apps
to provide recommendations.
You two had too many extreme arguments,
do you know why?
It’s because you rely on
this one app too much.
As if once there’s an app like this,
it will be
the only app on your phone.
That’s not true.
It will be just one app
among dozens of apps you use.
It will just provide you with a little extra info
for reference.
It wouldn’t tell you
who to love and who not to.
It’s still up to you
to chase love, feel love and experience love.
It’s just some extra info.
Don’t take it too seriously.
Do you know how long it takes
to learn about a person in a relationship?
Without the help of data,
without the beacons
that strangers built
to guide us,
how many detours will we take in life?
Say you click on a guy’s profile,
nine exes,
all saying he’s a "mama’s boy".
Say another guy,
seven exes said he’s abusive.
Wouldn’t it help you avoid them?
Wouldn’t it help you out?
This much of information efficiency
is enough to help people.
If you’re willing to use it,
and it could help you,
that will be more than enough.
Of course,
[The BB Planet is launching an ex-rating app.
The Affirmative: Yes]
I do understand
an important issue
that Gaoming and Qiuyang both mentioned.
That is, breakups should be a full stop.
Breakups mean he’s dead to me.
Breaks up mean I need to move on.
If I always comment on them
on this app,
wouldn’t it stop me from moving on?
It reminds me of something.
There was a show called
"The Breakup Museum".
It displayed the memories of
the ordinary couples in life.
When it toured to Wuhan,
I went to see it.
The show had
a scarf that’s not well-knitted,
and a desk
full of train tickets on it.
All the train tickets
have the same destination.
City A and City B,
back and forth.
Then gradually,
you see that the trip became less frequent,
until one day,
it stopped.
In that show,
many people stood for ages in front of that desk.
I realized it then,
there are so many people who did long-distance.
All of them
have a desk full of train tickets like this.
Maybe it’s in their heart, their drawer
or inside their wallet.
But it’s there.
And they never touch it again,
never.
We always ask,
"If I seal the painful memories,
will they disappear?"
Let me tell you.
They won’t disappear.
You probably emptied
a small space in your heart,
and put all of them in there,
but they will ferment in the dark.
It doesn’t hurt unless you touch it,
but it’s there.
When you walk up to that desk,
and see all the train tickets.
All the blue tickets.
Boom, the emotions resurfaced.
Tears,
all the tears just fall down.
You never let it go.
You just pretended to.
But the guy who provided the tickets,
said something interesting
during an interview.
He said when he laid out all the tickets
on the show,
when he saw another person
shed tears of sadness
in front of the desk,
a window suddenly opened
inside the dark corner in his heart.
Guys,
we are not suffering by ourselves.
There are seven billion people on this planet.
When you feel like,
you’re at the darkest moment in life,
you’re suffering
tremendous pain,
try to remember this.
There are more people, more than you can imagine,
have experienced this same pain.
At that moment, when he realized
how similar humanity’s pains and happiness are,
how strangers all over the world experience the same pain,
he understood that his sufferings are not alone.
This is the first step of letting go.
Because this kind of resonance
at the moment when the trains tickets
were laid out,
made him realize that
"I’m not that miserable,
there is still warmth in life."
I have to say this, to you
and everyone watching on the TV.
Because just two days ago,
at night,
there’s another kid in my university
who stood on the roof
and tried to commit suicide.
All the lecturers and staff members
hurried there,
and wondered what’s wrong.
There will be dark moments in life,
but in those moments,
please tell yourself this.
"All the most excruciating pains
I suffered in life,
many others
have gone through them too.
[You’re not alone. There’s someone who
understand your miseries.]
Many others."
If you’re willing to share it
in a certain place,
in exchange of warmth,
resonance and hope,
then you will have more strength
in fighting against the darkness.
This app
can open a small window in your heart.
Maybe it won’t light up your entire life,
but it can bring some light.
Why wouldn’t you want that?
Thank you.
[Yes and No]
You can feel clearly that
he is emitting his light.
When he stands up,
he’s no longer Calvin.
He’s a goddess.
Go.
Slay it.
When Calvin stood up,
the votes look familiar.
But when he sits down,
it also looks familiar.
Now the votes are 70 vs 30, the affirmative leads.
[The BB Planet is launching an ex-rating app.
Do you support that? Yes or No]